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Sincerity towards people

Salam Alaykum,

It is part of our religion to care for others as we would for our family and ourselves. As was narrated by Anas ra. that the Prophet(s.a.w) said:

“None of you believes until he loves for his brother what he loves for himself.”

A lot of Islam is dedicated to our conduct with other people Muslim or not. Often however we forget that, we forget that we are a part of humanity and that Allah swt honoured all of the Children of Adam. That we sincerely wish for every person to be saved from having to hear Shaytans khutba in Jahanam, affirming everything that Allah swt. has said and declaring everything that he said or promised to be a lie. It should never be our wish, that a person no matter how much we may hate them to be sent to Hell, as we say in our normal conversations.

In this consumer-driven society we as a community have seemingly lost that sincere care for the mental and physical well-being of our fellow people. Our conduct with each other, however is one of the most tale telling signs of our current state, one just needs to read the absolutely disgusting comments on a certain video from both sides of the argument, attacking each other instead of striving for good.

Balance is at the heart of our religion, we are called the nation of the middle in, in the exact middle of Surah Al-Baqarah. As such we should cling to the book of Allah and the Sunnah as a guide towards and on the middle path. If we truly want Change in our world, we have to become the change that we want to see. Starting with a sincere intention, as expounded on in the last post (in German), because while we do care about our fellow human beings we are not trying to please them to our detriment. Ultimately everything we do should be to please Allah swt., as Sheikh As-Sakandari said in Al-Hakim,

Actions are like statues that only come to life with the spirit of sincerity.

Ibn Taymiyyah also said this about sincerity to Allahs swt.:

Sincerity for Allaah is that a person’s intent is for Allaah and intends everything for Him, causing fountains of wisdom to spring up from his heart
on to his tongue.

Allah swt promised us that when we do His work for His pleasure alone then He will make people be pleased with us.

“Whoever seeks the pleasure of Allah though it displeases the people, then Allah becomes pleased with him and He will make the people pleased with him. Whoever seeks the pleasure of the people and it displeases Allah, then Allah becomes displeased with him and will make the people displeased with him.”

[al-Mundhiri, al-Targhib wa’l-Tarhib, 3:208 and al-`Iraqi, al-Mughni `an Haml al-Asfar, 4:68]
We therefore strive to be godly people in everything that we do, it does not matter to us then if we are thanked by the recipient of our good deed or not.

While we call people to good and call people to abstain from the bad, we should recognise and have in the back of our head where people are coming from. Knowing or being familiar with their social, socio-economic, ethnic and geopolitical environment, and knowing what shapes them is an important aspect in knowing how to call them to good
beyond the surface level. It should be an invitation that comes from the heart because we value them, and care about their well-being in this and the next life.
A part of being godly people, especially in connection to being sincere is not to lie, being it a white red or black lie. We have the most excellent example in the Prophet saw. who was known to his people as As-Sidiq, the truthful.  As he saw. said in a hadith narrated by Abdullah ra. :

Truth leads one to Paradise and virtue leads one to Paradise and the person tells the truth until he is recorded as truthful, and lie leads to obscenity and obscenity leads to Hell, and the person tells a lie until he is recorded as a liar.

We should also be keeping the secrets and confidences of other people. Private information is just that, private and should only be shared in emergencies if it comes to that and then only what is relevant. This information is an Amanah, it is the sign of a hypocrite that he should share such information as the prophet saw has said on the authority of Abu Hurairah ra.

Signs of a hypocrite are three: whenever he speaks he lies; whenever he promises, he breaks his promises; and whenever he has been entrusted, be betrays his trust; (Another narration adds) even if he fasts and prays and even if he claims he is a Muslim.

You are the guardian of this information so do not spread it in gossip. Backbiting in Islam is seen as eating the flesh of your dead brother. As a brother reminded us today, if you have nothing to say keep quiet. It is very easy to talk badly about people, sometimes it is just done to liven conversations. It is harder but better to keep quiet.
Allah swt. says in the Quran:

O you who have believed, let not a people ridicule [another] people; perhaps they may be better than them; nor let women ridicule [other] women; perhaps they may be better than them. And do not insult one another and do not call each other by [offensive] nicknames. Wretched is the name of disobedience after [one’s] faith. And whoever does not repent – then it is those who are the wrongdoers.

[Quran Surah 49:11]

Allah swt. also says:

Woe to every slanderer and backbiter.

[Quran Surah 104:1]
Every single day we should take account of ourselves, of what we have done on that day. Ask for forgiveness for our shortcomings, and resolve to be and act better the next day and to increase in the good that we do.
Wa Salam,
Abdur-Rhaman