Tag Archives: Shaytan

Being patient with ourselves

Salam Alaykum,

It is in our nature to want, do and act in haste, to be impatient as Allah (swt.) said in the Qur’an:

“Man is ever hasty” [Surah Al-Israa’ : 11]

Our creator created us like this, with this haste and still He (swt.) expects us to fight it. To act with intelligence and not act on emotion alone. Didn’t the Prophet (saw.) say:

“The strong man is not the good wrestler; but the strong man is he who controls himself when he is angry.” [Agreed upon.]

To be patient in a moment of extreme emotion, be it anger or sadness is often to act against our first instinct to lash out. We are asked to struggle, to make Jihad in such situations, to be the strong man or woman.

Wasn’t there a time where we sought to be grown up as fast as possible? Then pine away at those trouble-free days as we reached our adult days. Do we not seek time to pass faster when there is nothing to do, but miss times of lazing about when we are busy. We always want time to go by as fast as possible, not realising that with every second we come closer to death. We forget to live in the moment, thanking God for the good times and the bad times. The times of joy and happiness and those of pain and sadness which we want to have passed quickly, but everything takes time.

“Rome ne fut pas faite toute en un jour”

Rome wasn’t built in a day as the adage says, encouraging us, that there is a need of time for great things to be created. Everyone is on a journey and at different stages of it, it takes time for us to reach the majour stations in our life as Allah (swt.) wills it and how much effort we put into reaching them. If a majour problem of yours is your anger, then work on it, it may take a long time to control it but you’ll get there. We will get there, inshaAllah (if God wills). On our journey to reach our goals, we need to be persistent. There may be many set backs on the way, it is going to be hard but persist in it and Allah will give. As Allah (swt.) tells us in many instances:

“And seek help through patience and prayer, and indeed, it is difficult except for the humbly submissive [to Allah ]” [Surah Baqarah : 153]

 But they never lost assurance due to what afflicted them in the cause of Allah , nor did they weaken or submit. And Allah loves the steadfast.

[Surah Ali Imran : 146]

It is always difficult to be patient especially with ourselves, we can be very hard on ourselves, with our regrets and guilt. To a point regret and feeling guilt is okay and a good thing, it can drive us making that train reach its station faster. Past a certain point however it harms us, we either fall to our regrets, wallowing in them or we begin to feel indifferent which is the other extreme. The goal is to harness this feeling to become better, to come closer to God.

In a Hadith Qudsi related by Abu Huraira (ra.) the Messenger of Allah (saw.) said:

The Prophet (ﷺ) said, “Allah, the Exalted, and Glorious said: ‘A slave committed a sin and he said: O Allah, forgive my sin,’ and Allah said: ‘My slave committed a sin and then he realized that he has a Rubb Who forgives the sins and punishes for the sin.’ He then again committed a sin and said: ‘My Rubb, forgive my sin,’ and Allah (SWT) said: ‘My slave committed a sin and then realized that he has a Rubb Who forgives his sin and punishes for the sin.’ He again committed a sin and said: ‘My Rubb, forgive my sin,’ and Allah (SWT) said: ‘My slave has committed a sin and then realized that he has a Rubb Who forgives the sin or takes (him) to account for sin. I have granted forgiveness to my slave. Let him do whatever he likes”.
[Al-Bukhari and Muslim]

This Hadith shows, the Mercy of Allah (swt.) that He forgives and forgives if we repent with sincerity. This of course does not give us the license to sin, but if we fall into sin and then repent from it sincerely, resolving to not do it again, and we happen to fall into it again then we are to repent from it again and to not give up repenting for our weakness.

It was said to al-Hasan al Basri (rah.):

“Shouldn’t one of us feel too shy to ask his Lord to forgive his sin, then do it again, then ask for forgiveness, then do it again? He said: The Shaytaan wishes that you would have this attitude, so do not tire of asking for forgiveness.”

We have to have the patience that when we do something we regret repeatedly, to ask for forgiveness and to not get tired of repenting thinking that, “I am just going to do it again anyway”. 

We ask Allah (swt.), as the army of Saul (as.) and David (as.) asked:

Our Lord, pour upon us patience…

[Surah Al-Baqarah : 250]

Oh Allah help us make us worthy of having you with us, as you have promised the people who are patient.

Indeed, Allah is with the patient.

Make us people of patience and forbearance, of good character and good actions. Amin.

Wa Salam,

5 tips on how to be more sincere

1. Rajab 1435

Salam Alaykum,

the past month had the theme of being more sincere. Due to me being a bit busier than I anticipated and less organised most of the posts in this series were written and posted over the last week, instead of being spread over the month.

In the post Sincerity, I went through the importance of being sincere and its definition, while in the post Aufrichtigkeit gegenüber Allah swt. I went over what it meant to be sincere to God and why we should be. He swt. is the light of the heaven and the earth, there is no other source of light except Him, so why waste this life trying to fill the void, the yearning in our life, when nothing can fill it except Him?  In Sincerity towards people,  I tried to explain that we as Muslims should feel a sincere care for our fellow human beings, I would even go further and say, that we have a duty towards the mental and physical well-being of all people. Allah swt. honoured the children of Adam, so why don’t we?

In this last post of this month, I’d like to go into some practical tips on how  one may become more sincere in ones actions.

1. Be conscious of Allah swt.

This is the goal, having Taqwa of Allah swt. in every action that we do, it is the way to ensure that we are sincere in our actions. Having in the back of our minds, that Allah swt. is there that we will meet Him and will be asked about how we spent every single breath in this life, even though He swt. already knows, He the most Just of Judges. Every single Prayer, every single supplication, every single act of Dhikr that we perform should remind us. The more we increase the acts of worship in our lives the more connected we become to the light.

2. Sincere Supplication

Supplication, Dua’ is the weapon of a believer in every situation. Allah swt. is the controller of our hearts. The Prophet saw. used to supplicate “Oh turner of hearts, keep our hearts firm on your religion” [Muslim] So why do we not turn and ask the One who controls our hearts to make us sincere in our actions. Umar ibn Al-Khattab ra. used to say: “Oh Allah! Make all of my actions for your sake only!”

3. Doing Actions privately

We as humans seek to be appreciated, to be praised for our actions, it makes us feel good, feel needed, of use etc. Praise is however poison to our intentions, we begin to do our actions because we want to be praised. Our intentions become corrupted, and we fall to the danger of our deeds not being accepted.

In a hadith, which is one of the ones that many people will know, regarding sincerity and one of the scariest. In this narration on the authority of Abu Hurairah ra. the Prophet saw. said, “Three categories of people will be the first to be thrown into Hell-Fire: a scholar who taught people merely to be praised as a scholar; a generous person who gave charity just to be called generous; and a person who participates in Jihad to be recognized as brave.”

Deeds that are done in private are more likely to be sincere, so let’s do more in private, when no one sees our long Sujuds, our tears as we make dua’ or our charity. As narrated in the Hadith of Abu Hurairah ra. among those 7 groups of people that are granted the Shade of Allah swt. on the Day of Judgement are “…a person who gives a charity and conceals it (to such an extent) that the left hand might not know what the right has given; and a person who remembers Allah in solitude and his eyes well up.” [ Bukhari and Muslim]

4. Check your intentions

Check your intentions regularly, when beginning a task ask yourself who you are doing this for, for Allah or for the people. If there is doubt, then renew your intention right there and go ahead with the task with full confidence, knowing it is solely for Allah. If you are doing a task and you hear the whispers of Shaytan as people watch you, and you unconsciously make your prayer just a tiny bit longer. Renew your intention, and make it longer, as it was attributed to Imam An-Nakhai rah.“When Shaytan comes to you while you are in prayer and says: ‘You are showing off,’ make it longer.” It is his will that we abandon the task. When you have completed the task, ask Allah swt. for the acceptance of the task.

5. Make it  (the task) regular

Regularity is a sign that we are committed to an action, that we indeed value it, finding pleasure in obedience to Allah swt. in serving Him, as every action that is done for His sake is an ibadah, a worship. In a Hadith narrated by Abu Hurairah ra. the Prophet saw. said”The deeds of anyone of you will not save you (from the (Hell) Fire).” They said, “Even you (will not be saved by your deeds), O Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ)?” He said, “No, even I (will not be saved) unless and until Allah bestows His Mercy on me. Therefore, do good deeds properly, sincerely and moderately and know that your deeds will not make you enter Paradise, and that the most beloved deed to Allah’s is the most regular and constant even though it were little.” [Bukhari] In another Hadith Aisha ra. was asked, “What deed was the most beloved to the Prophet?” She said, “The regular constant one.” [Buhkari]

Final “Word” and Tips

These are my tips to become more sincere. These posts are first and foremost for me, to remind myself, to learn and improve myself and I hope that they are of some benefit to you too, inshaAllah.

Some final tips from me, firstly don’t act different around people, whether they approve or not, whether it is to act more piously or less. Be moderate, that is what the religion teaches us, do things as you can and improve steadily, don’t overburden yourself. Take it easy, don’t be too hard on yourself, we all are work in progress.  Have resolve and be resolute in what you are doing and try to constantly ground yourself.

Abu Bakr ra., and with this I end this long post, used to supplicate: “Oh Allah, make me better than what they think of me, and forgive me for what they do not know about me, and do not take me to account for what they say about me.”

Wa Salam,


#Be more Sincere

Sources and further read:

OnIslam | MuslimMatters | IOU | Sunnipath | Muslimlinkpaper