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Be more Confident

Salam Alaykum,

This month of May, of exams and other torture methods, the theme of this blog will be to Be more Confident. This series is quite important to myself, I suffer of a lack of confidence sometimes, of anxieties etc. and during this month I’ll try to find out and learn about what Islam tells us and what the scholars say about Confidence, about Self-Esteem and Anxiety.

I feel this is not just a topic that is of importance to the usual audience, teenagers and young adults such as myself, but also to adults. Those adults that have a problem with asking for time off for Jumuah or the Mo’s at work not wanting to stand out as Muslims or the ones obsessed with their looks, for example. All of this due to their lack of confidence, or due to their fears of being laid off etc. Over the next few posts I will be writing about the issue of lack of confidence and self-esteem, inshaAllah. Today I’m going to, as usual try to set the scene, with some definitions on the topic.

Confidence, as merriam-webster tells us is a feeling or belief that one can do something well or succeed at something. It comes from the middle French confidence from Latin confidentias derived from confido, of which confidere is a verb form. Con- means together and fido means trust. Fido comes from the Proto-Indo-European *bʰeydʰ- meaning (to command, to persuade, to trust). Fides, the Noun also means faith and belief, reliance, confidence and trust. In Arabic, the word that can be used to denote confidence is Thiqah الثقة, self-confidence is thiqah bin Nafs الثقة بالنفس. Another word that will be discussed in more detail in this series is tawakkul تَوَكُل in Allah, having trust, reliance and being confident in Allah swt.

While discussing this it needs to be said, that we’re not talking here about being arrogant, that being confident and having self-confidence is not in conflict with also being humble.

The servants of the Lord of Mercy are those who walk humbly on the earth, and who, when aggressive people address them, reply with words of peace.

[Qur’an 25:63]

I might be inferring things into this verse but it struck me how much this also is about being confident. Yes we are told to walk on this earth humbly, meaning without “swag”, without signs of pride, which is based on some form of seeking attention. People who are confident about themselves don’t need that. They don’t take their sense of self-worth from other people. This is also according to Ustadh Nouman Ali Khan a weakness, but it is towards Allah only not towards other people. The Prophet saw. warned about a time when the Ummah will be plagued by this weakness.

When there is a chance of confrontation, we reply with confidence and with words of peace. The word Jahil is used in this (aggressive people), literally meaning someone who isn’t using their mind. Who is emotional, not thinking about what they’re saying. In these situations the best way is to act non-confrontational, whether it is actually saying Salam or words of Salam. This takes self-confidence and consideration to do correctly, to know what to say in these situations because Jahil must not only be extremely negative but as said can be referred to someone who is emotional, depressed etc.

I’ll have to cut this short here, for today. I hope you’ll find this as beneficial as I do thinking and reflecting on this topic. I apologize if this isn’t as coherent or structured I’ve got exams in a few days.

Wa Salam,

Abdur-Rahman

Humility to God

Salam Alaykum,

I’ve anounced it weeks ago here it finally is, may it be beneficial to both you and me. Amin.

“Call on Your Lord with humility and in private, He does not like those who exceed His bounds“

[The Heights 7:55]

Humility to God includes that one realises and understands that He is our Creator, He is the One who supplies us with all our necessities, our sustenance. This needs to be realised over and over again, we need to internalise it.

We need to submit to Him in every action that we do:

“Say, my prayers and devotions, my living and my dying are all for God, Lord of all the Worlds.” [6:162]

We can’t talk about humility to anyone without first having humility to Allah swt. as the One who created us and gave us everything that we have whether we see it as good or bad. Everything that we have gained is a favour from Him and everything we’ve lost is a favour from Him.
Contemplating on the complexities of life should humble us of the greatness of Allah swt. in the Quran it is said:

O people an example has been struck, so listen carefully: those who you call on besides Allah could not, even if they combined all of their forces, create a fly, and if a fly took something away from them, they would not be able to retrieve it.

This Verse is quite interesting. Firstly, the passive is used, removing the One who gave the example. Telling the people to just think logically, to not let their conceived notions come in between their thinking. Secondly, it uses a small creation telling us to be humble, we could never create something even as small as a fly. Thirdly, it highlightes our inability to change anything that Allah swt. wants, by giving the example of a fly, acting beyond our and any of our false gods controls.

Ibn Al Qayyim says this about humility,

“There are two realities which we must fully grasp in order to be truly characterized with the noblest characteristic of humility. First and foremost is to come to truly know Allah’s perfection, His abundant favors upon us and how we are fully dependent upon Him. Secondly, we have to come to know ourselves, where we come from and our numerous weaknesses and shortcomings.”

Finally the Prophet saw. said:

“God only increases a person in status if he forgives, and no one ever humbles himself before God but He will raise him in status.” (Muslim)

 

Wa Salam,
Abdur-Rahman

Humility

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Salam Alaykum,

This month theme as I’ve repeated myself often the last few days, without actually having written anything about it as of yet, is Being more humble. So in this first post on this topic in a similar format to the first post on thankfulness (in German) last month I’ll begin with a definition of humility.

Humbleness or Humility is the absence of any feeling of being better than others, having or showing modest or low estimate of one’s importance. In the English language we directly derive it from old French which derives it from Latin. Humilis meaning low or lowly which is taken from the word for ground, humus. In Arabic again there are many words to denote humility one is tawadaa having a similar meaning to the latin to lower one’s self or to submit. Another is  Hawna another still is Khasha’a, both of these can however also be taken negative, as in humiliation. When used to describe Muslims however they’ve always been given good qualities. So in the Quran using the word Hawna it says,

“The servants of the Lord of Mercy are those who walk humbly on the earth…” (25:63)

 I read once in an article on the virtual mosque that Humility can be divided into 3. Humility before God, humility in relation to the Religion and humility in relation to people. Over the next few weeks I will God willing write a little bit about each of these.

I’ll end this post today with something I gained from a lecture yesterday and then with a hadith. The Sheikh mentioned that Humility is the virtue that all other virtues are rooted in. From having humility you will automatically bearing in mind the definitions above be respectful in your dealings with everyone you meet. You will not think yourself as being better than anyone, therefore not being arrogant. You’ll be thankful for the blessings that you have been granted, because you are not arrogant to think, that you deserve such and such without giving any effort.

Forgiveness, Courage, Justice they all are interrelated leading to one another opening doors for you, you never thought of.

Finally a hadith,

Abu Huraira reported Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) as saying:

Let him be humbled, let him be humbled. It was said: Allah’s Messenger, who is he? He said. He who finds his parents in old age, either one or both of them, and does not enter Paradise.
Wa Salam,
Abdur-Rahman
#January – Being more thankful
#February – Being more humble

Entry III

Salam Alaykum,

today’s post is just a small update from me. First, as we’ve started a new month both in the Gregorian and the Islamic Calendar it is time for a new theme of the month. Which will be “Being more humble” inshaAllah.

The last few days I’ve been somewhat occupied, the hours not spending with my family, I spent on either something for the Isoc or learning something in one form or another. Which is a good thing, alhamdulillah. May Allah keep our intentions pure. Amin.

The latest thing I’ve designed for the Isoc, is for a class that’ll be on every Monday. It’s called each one teach one, the aim is to pretty much make students of knowledge out of us inshaAllah. I’m excited, though also a bit nervous, apprehensive even. Here’s the poster…

Each1 Teach1

The next few things will probably include something for a  workshop and the Discover Islam Week, we’ll see.

Tomorrow morning it’s going back to university, I am home in Nottingham for the weekend by the way. My coach leaves at 8:30 or so, if I remember right and I’ll arrive around 11:00.

The weekend passed way to quickly. I heard that in San Francisco’s Bay area Salatul Istisqa (The Prayer for rain) was prayed yesterday, there’s been a 3 year draught there. Today it did rain a bit may Allah make it beneficial for them and send more of it wherever it is needed, whether it is in Africa, Asia, Europe, America, wherever people live. Amin.

It just reminded me of how granted we take the rain here in England, subhanallah wa Alhamdulillah. (Glory be to Allah and all praise and gratitude is for Allah)

That’s it from me for today, starting tomorrow the new theme “Being more humble” is going to be rolled out.

Till then inshaAllah,

Wa Salam,

Abdur-Rahman

Khutba on Dua’ 31/01/14

Salam,

it’s been a while since I’ve recorded and uploaded a khutba so here is the first one of many to come this year inshaAllah. May it be beneficial for me and you. Amin.

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Wa Salam,

Abdur-Rahman