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Being patient with ourselves

Salam Alaykum,

It is in our nature to want, do and act in haste, to be impatient as Allah (swt.) said in the Qur’an:

“Man is ever hasty” [Surah Al-Israa’ : 11]

Our creator created us like this, with this haste and still He (swt.) expects us to fight it. To act with intelligence and not act on emotion alone. Didn’t the Prophet (saw.) say:

“The strong man is not the good wrestler; but the strong man is he who controls himself when he is angry.” [Agreed upon.]

To be patient in a moment of extreme emotion, be it anger or sadness is often to act against our first instinct to lash out. We are asked to struggle, to make Jihad in such situations, to be the strong man or woman.

Wasn’t there a time where we sought to be grown up as fast as possible? Then pine away at those trouble-free days as we reached our adult days. Do we not seek time to pass faster when there is nothing to do, but miss times of lazing about when we are busy. We always want time to go by as fast as possible, not realising that with every second we come closer to death. We forget to live in the moment, thanking God for the good times and the bad times. The times of joy and happiness and those of pain and sadness which we want to have passed quickly, but everything takes time.

“Rome ne fut pas faite toute en un jour”

Rome wasn’t built in a day as the adage says, encouraging us, that there is a need of time for great things to be created. Everyone is on a journey and at different stages of it, it takes time for us to reach the majour stations in our life as Allah (swt.) wills it and how much effort we put into reaching them. If a majour problem of yours is your anger, then work on it, it may take a long time to control it but you’ll get there. We will get there, inshaAllah (if God wills). On our journey to reach our goals, we need to be persistent. There may be many set backs on the way, it is going to be hard but persist in it and Allah will give. As Allah (swt.) tells us in many instances:

“And seek help through patience and prayer, and indeed, it is difficult except for the humbly submissive [to Allah ]” [Surah Baqarah : 153]

 But they never lost assurance due to what afflicted them in the cause of Allah , nor did they weaken or submit. And Allah loves the steadfast.

[Surah Ali Imran : 146]

It is always difficult to be patient especially with ourselves, we can be very hard on ourselves, with our regrets and guilt. To a point regret and feeling guilt is okay and a good thing, it can drive us making that train reach its station faster. Past a certain point however it harms us, we either fall to our regrets, wallowing in them or we begin to feel indifferent which is the other extreme. The goal is to harness this feeling to become better, to come closer to God.

In a Hadith Qudsi related by Abu Huraira (ra.) the Messenger of Allah (saw.) said:

The Prophet (ﷺ) said, “Allah, the Exalted, and Glorious said: ‘A slave committed a sin and he said: O Allah, forgive my sin,’ and Allah said: ‘My slave committed a sin and then he realized that he has a Rubb Who forgives the sins and punishes for the sin.’ He then again committed a sin and said: ‘My Rubb, forgive my sin,’ and Allah (SWT) said: ‘My slave committed a sin and then realized that he has a Rubb Who forgives his sin and punishes for the sin.’ He again committed a sin and said: ‘My Rubb, forgive my sin,’ and Allah (SWT) said: ‘My slave has committed a sin and then realized that he has a Rubb Who forgives the sin or takes (him) to account for sin. I have granted forgiveness to my slave. Let him do whatever he likes”.
[Al-Bukhari and Muslim]

This Hadith shows, the Mercy of Allah (swt.) that He forgives and forgives if we repent with sincerity. This of course does not give us the license to sin, but if we fall into sin and then repent from it sincerely, resolving to not do it again, and we happen to fall into it again then we are to repent from it again and to not give up repenting for our weakness.

It was said to al-Hasan al Basri (rah.):

“Shouldn’t one of us feel too shy to ask his Lord to forgive his sin, then do it again, then ask for forgiveness, then do it again? He said: The Shaytaan wishes that you would have this attitude, so do not tire of asking for forgiveness.”

We have to have the patience that when we do something we regret repeatedly, to ask for forgiveness and to not get tired of repenting thinking that, “I am just going to do it again anyway”. 

We ask Allah (swt.), as the army of Saul (as.) and David (as.) asked:

Our Lord, pour upon us patience…

[Surah Al-Baqarah : 250]

Oh Allah help us make us worthy of having you with us, as you have promised the people who are patient.

Indeed, Allah is with the patient.

Make us people of patience and forbearance, of good character and good actions. Amin.

Wa Salam,
Abdur-Rahman

Khutba I

Salam Alaykum,

I recently found a couple of my old Sermons (khutba) that I gave at College and since it’s Friday I thought I’d share a snippet with you.

All Praises and thanks are due to Allah swt., whom we thank, seek help and invoke his forgiveness. Peace and blessings be upon the noble Messenger, his family and companions.

A new academic year has arrived. To the year 12s, I welcome you with the words of peace, the words of paradise As-Salamu Alaykum. To the year 13s and the teachers, I welcome you back, As Salamu Alaykum.

This year brings with it many new challenges and hurdles to overcome, but in all this, never forget Allah swt, your Creator. With everything that might come up, that may seem to overwhelm us, don’t forget that this life is a test, a test from Allah swt. our Lord. The Prophet saw. said: “Verily, if Allah loves a people, He makes them go through trials. Whoever is satisfied, for him is contentment and whoever is angry upon him is wrath.”

Allah swt. also says in the Quran: “Indeed with hardship there is ease.” With all the things going on in our lives we should never lose sight of the sirat al mustakeem, the straight path, we ask Allah swt. to guide us to in every prayer, reciting Al-Fatiha.

This life is not more than a blink of an eye, or a drop in the ocean when compared to the next, so why give that up? In the last khutba I talked about keeping up the good deeds that we have done in Ramadan, to not stop achieving greatness just because Ramadan is now over. Ramadan was a training to keep our desires an infinite wants under lock, away from the influences of shaytan.

Shaitan, who Allah swt. says: “Oh you who believe, enter into Islam completely and perfectly and do not follow the footsteps of Shaytan. Indeed he is to you a clear enemy.” In Ramadan Shaytan was in shackles, away from us, not being able to influence us any more. However a tea swirled with a spoon will continue swirling even after  it has been taken out. The influence Shaytan had on us before Ramadan might have continued into Ramadan and maybe even out of Ramadan.

In that case turn to Allah, ask him for forgiveness. Pray your five daily prayers that are obligatory on you without excuses and read Quran everyday even if it is just a page or 5 verses.

Now that Ramadan is over, Shaytan is once again at large throwing hurdles at us trying to make us fall into the depths of our sins. Make Allah swt. your Protector, your Guide, and nothing can touch you. Remember , in the battle of Badr, Allah swt. helped His Messenger saw. by sending armies of angels who stroked fear in the vast army of the Quraysh causing them to run. Allah swt. is there for the one who asks Him, and obeys Him.

Wa Salam,

Abdur-Rahman

News: Hull Mosque leader Imam Hafiz Salik: I’ll forgive the attacker who blinded me

Imam Salik, the leader of the Hull Mosque and Islamic Centre, said he would be willing to forgive his attacker if he came forward. Imam Salik was hurt after two men and a woman stopped his car as he was driving along Spring Bank West, west Hull, with his wife and daughter. One of the men opened his car door and punched him in the face.

Imam Salik, who has dedicated almost 30 years of his life to promoting peace and unity between different communities in Hull, said: “I am an innocent person who has been hurt for no reason.

“I have always said we should talk to these people who rebel and do things like this and try to make them good citizens. I do have sympathy, I think they do not understand me and my work, because if they did, they wouldn’t have done this.

Read more: http://www.hulldailymail.co.uk/Hull-Mosque-leader-Imam-Hafiz-Salik-ll-forgive/story-20426166-detail/story.html#ixzz2qD42sKml

Don’t know what I should say to this, I pray that he regains his eye sight inshaAllah and that Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala forgives his sins for every pinch of pain that he feels as mentioned in the hadith.

‘A’isha ra. reported:

I heard Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) saying: There is nothing (in the form of trouble) that comes to a believer even if it is the pricking of a thorn that there is decreed for him by Allah good or his sins are obliterated.

[Sahih Muslim 2572]

May Allah swt. also increase him constantly in patience and Iman. Amin.

I hope those that did this will be found quickly and be taken to account, inshaAllah.

 

Surah As-Sharh: Khutba by Sheikh Tawfique chowdhury

For those who get tired, tired from the daily attacks on our Iman, who say they’ve done enough. I personally needed this khutba, and thank Allah swt. for giving me this reminder for giving me the ability to hear it, even though I came late.

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