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Racial Profiling

Racial Profiling ist ein allgegenwärtiges Problem für People of Colour in Deutschland und generell im Westen und dass nicht erst seit Silvester.

Einmal wurde ich in Kassel am Bahnhof kontrolliert, ich war in Eile und aus offensichtlichen Gründen genervt. Also habe ich den Polizisten eben gefragt: ‘Warum ausgerechnet ich?’ Ihm war das dann sehr unangenehm und er entschuldigte sich mit den Worten: ‘Naja, Sie passen halt ins Raster.’ Ich glaube zwar nicht, dass es allen so unangenehm ist wie diesem Beamten, aber es gibt offenbar ein Bewusstsein darüber, dass diese Praxis diskriminierend ist und welche Demütigung sie den Menschen damit zufügen. Denn das ist Racial Profiling vor allem: demütigend. Entwürdigend.

Temye Tesfu 



A man floating

“Know that a man floating on a piece of wood in the sea is not in more need of God and His kindness than a person in his home, sitting between his family and property. When this meaning becomes ingrained in your heart, then rely on God like a drowning man who knows not any other means to salvation but God.”

Ibn Qudamah

Love for the Ummah

Salam Alaykum,

Ya Nabi Salam Alayka, Ya Rasul Salam Alayka, Ya Habib Salam Alayka, Salawatu Allah alayka, 

The Nasheed fading into the night, the crackle and sparks of the lit camp fire joining it. The smoke rising momentarily covering the sight of the amazing star constellations, for a moment captivating the 20 urban boys between 7 and 13 sitting around the fire.

Gönüllerde hasretin var, Yürekler aşkınla çarpar, Sensiz dünya bizlere dar, Selam sana ey kuddusi yar…

Holding their stick-bread into the fire, listening, joining in the singing and getting lost in the flickering of the fire. I love them, Wallahi I love them all for the sake of Allah. Those that know how to be annoying at times. Those defying my orders of sleeping in their beds preferring huddling on the floor with their blankets, hiding under them from the scary caretaker. As well as those that are just plain sugar.

In the last two post that I uploaded here on the DhikrCave I talked about the love of family and keeping and protecting the ties of kinship. The term family in our use today incorporates much more than just those family members tied to us by blood, but also friends. The slang fam and its use is an example of that, incorporating close friends under the wing of the term family.

In Islam we are not just tied by the ties of kinship, of family but also by something stronger. The rope of Allah (swt.), as He says in the Quran:

And hold firmly to the rope of Allah all together and do not become divided [3:103]

We love all those that try to do as He (swt.) commands, they are to us like blood brothers and sisters. As the Prophet (saw.) said:

“A believer is the mirror of his brother. A believer is the brother of another believer. He protects him against loss and defends him behind his back.”

[Al-Adab Al-Mufrad | Hasan]

In this world where everyone is so concerned about themselves, we’ve lost the feeling of the Ummah. Instead we care about ourselves, marry within our little communities, and stand up only for those issues that concern us personally. The Messenger of Alllah (saw.) said:

The believers are like one person; if his head aches, the whole body aches with fever and sleeplessness.

[Sahih Muslim]

Do we lose sleep over our brothers and sisters in Syria, in Palestine, in Somalia, in the Central African Republic? If we don’t then there is something wrong with us.

It was narrated by Anas (ra.), that the Prophet (saw.) said:

“None of you believes until he loves for his brother what he loves for himself.” [At-Tirmidhi | Sahih]

Do we make dua’ for our brothers and sisters all over the world, or do we just talk about change? Pray for change and be part of the change. We cannot abandon our Muslim family like we cannot abandon our blood relations, we have to care for them like we care about our blood brothers and sisters, our blood mothers and fathers. We have to stand as one nation, as believers. Standing together like we do in Salah. Feet to feet, shoulder to shoulder, no matter the nationality or status of the person next to us.

Wa Salam,



Keeping the ties of kinship

Salam Alaykum,

My greater family has always been spread over the continents. I’m a little jealous of the kinds of family gatherings some of my friends and brothers have. The roots of most of my family lie in Africa, in Nigeria to be specific. My maternal grandparents are Nigerians and my paternal grandfather was Nigerian. (May Allah have mercy on him)

My paternal grandmother however was German and as the daughter of a mother who had 8 children (if I remember right) my German side of the family is pretty big. While they are centred in Frankfurt am Main it’s spread all over Germany and maybe even abroad. The thing is, I don’t really know any of them. I met them once at a funeral, it was bizarre to me to have and see third cousins, cousins first removed and so on.  A couple of years ago my father showed me some pictures of my grandmother, I don’t remember what she looks like any more.

Actually I don’t know much about any part of my family in general and that is something I hope to rectify soon. For my own curiosity, but also as Abu Hurairah (ra.) narrated that the Messenger of Allah (saw.) said:

“Learn enough about your lineage to facilitate keeping your ties of kinship. For indeed keeping the ties of kinship encourages affection among the relatives, increases the wealth, and increases the lifespan.” [Tirmidhi | Hasan]

Family and keeping the ties of kinship is important in Islam, granted we are talking here more about the family that is nearest to you. About your mother and father of course, then your siblings, aunts and uncles. Especially the maternal aunt is to be treated with kindness as the Prophet saw. said, narrated by Al-Bara’ ibn Azib:

“The maternal aunt holds the same status as the mother.” [At-Tirmidhi | Sahih]

In a Hadith Qudsi Allah swt. warns us and tells us what the fate of a person not maintaining the ties of kinship is. Abdur-Rahman ibn Awf (ra.) narrates that he heard the Prophet (saw.) saying:

 “Allah, the Almighty and Exalted, said, ‘I am the Merciful (ar-Rahman). I have created ties of kinship and derived a name for it from My Name. If anyone maintains ties of kinship, I maintain connection with him, and I shall cut off anyone who cuts them off.’”

[Al-Adab Al-Mufrad | Sahih]

This Hadith also shows us the importance that Allah (swt.) gave the womb which He named after Himself and the ties that bind us through it. It is the vehicle of our coming into this world. The mother is the one that  nurtures us, as Allah (swt.) wills it, within the womb and outside of it.

There are so many Ahadith in relation to keeping family ties such as:

  ‘Abdullah bin Amr (ra.) narrated that: the Prophet said: “Merely maintaining the ties of kinship is not adequate. But connecting the ties of kinship is when his ties to the womb are severed and he connects it.” [At-Tirmidhi | Sahih]

Jubair bin Mut’am (ra.) narrated that the Messenger of Allah (saw.) said:
“The one who severs the ties of kinship will not enter Paradise.” [Bulugh ul Maram, Agreed upon]

Disagreements are normal within a family but they should never reach the level of these splitting the family. It is the duty of each member of the family to try and reconcile the parties in such a case. In a hadith narrated by Abu Hurairah (ra.)

The Messenger of Allah (saw.) said, “It is not permissible for a believer to forsake his (Muslim) brother for more than three days. If three days have passed, he should meet him and greet him; and if other responds to it they will both share the reward; but if he does not respond, he will bear his sin and the one who (has taken the initiative to) greet (the other) will be absolved of the sin of forsaking (one’s brother in Faith).

It is of utmost importance to make all the the effort one can to reconcile families, siblings and brothers and sisters in Islam. Here we aren’t talking about our relationship to our parents. If these are terse, we should do everything possible to fix that relationship as soon as possible. The love and reverence towards once parents is second only, to the love due to God and the Prophet (saw.). In the Qur’an kindness to the parents is often mentioned right after the obedience to Allah (swt.).

“And your Lord has decreed that you not worship except Him, and to parents, good treatment.” [17:23]

Parents, for the most of us are the first and most authoritative people in our lives. Obedience to them, of course in everything that does not contradict Islam, is linked to the obedience of the most authoritative being in our existence, our Creator. If we can not be obedient, respectful, loving and kind to our parents, what is our relationship to God going to be like? It is like a training ground if you will.

As much as Allah (swt.) has given massive rights towards our parents. They, according to Ustadh Nouman Ali Khan, they are supposed to be applied to ourselves and not weapons against children.  Allah (swt.) didn’t say that parents are always right, but that we have to respect them. Part of having a good relationship with your parents is having good conversations with them and being able to ask them and question them. Yusuf as. is the best example of that. A child willing to ask his father for advice, talk about his dream of all things. He wasn’t afraid of being written off by his father.

Today we are afraid of talking to our parents, afraid of asking for advice, talking about myself here mainly being afraid that they would kill you in the most imaginative ways you could think of. We need to be able to have meaningful conversations with our parents about anything. Conversations, that last longer than 5 minutes. May Allah (swt.) help us with that and keeping the ties of kinship. May Allah (swt.) strengthen our relationships with our parents, our spouses, our siblings, our extended families and our brothers and sisters in faith. Amin.

Wa Salam,


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Salam Alaykum,

Ramadan Mubarak from me again. I’m currently in a dilemma I don’t have anything written up for today, my Dad was visiting and I became slightly ill yesterday. I would write something now, but in a few minutes I am going to the mosque for Taraweeh so that’s out as well. What to do, What to do? I think I may change my schedule a bit to suit it for Ramadan and free up time here and there, automate a few tasks inshAllah. So here is just a quick entry telling you what’s going on. We’ll be back to normal tomorrow inshaAllah and if I can manage I will double post tomorrow with today’s actual and tomorrows post.

Wa Salaam,


When your world crumbles

When your world seems to be crumbling, remember that the Almighty will definitely come to your help.

When your road seems to be closed, remember that the Almighty will open many more new roads.

When you are let down by those closest to you, remember that the Almighty never let’s you down so make Him even closer.

When you suffer a loss, remember that the Almighty rewards you upon your patience & endurance far more than what you have lost.

When you feel so lonely because everyone has left you, remember that the Almighty will never forsake you.

When you have sinned so much, remember that the Almighty will forgive you if you repent truly & return to His Path.

When you get up every morning, thank the Almighty for giving you another chance to mend your ways before you finally meet Him.

When you are sad, remember to look for the path of He who created you for He Alone can make you truly happy.

Praise Him for indeed All praise is due to the one who loves us so much that He always declares Himself Most Compassionate, Most Merciful!

[Mufti Ismail Menk]