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Ramadan has landed

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As Salamu Alaykum!

God, the most glorified, the most High, says in the Holy Qur’an:

“So have they not travelled through the earth, and have hearts by which to reason, and ears by which to hear? For indeed, it is not the eyes that are blinded, but blinded are the hearts which are within the breast.” [22:46] 

As I begin to make preparations for a journey a certain amount of excitement and nervousness always builds up. I love to travel, and if I had the means and opportunity would love to travel more extensively than I have been able to as of yet. There is something about travelling that puts my heart and mind at ease. For me travelling is a journey to myself, a roadmap in essence, I get to know myself better, as well as those who I travel with. As Umar (ra.) once asked a man who wanted to vouch for another, whether he really knew him, including asking whether he had travelled with him saying:

“For travelling and being away from home reveals a man’s true essence”

Ramadan landed this year on the 18th of June, I find that I share the feelings that I have for travelling with Ramadan approaching. I am thrilled every year for it to arrive, but I feel kinda nervous too. The shayateen are chained up in this month, the sins I commit during this month is mostly all me and my  nafs. This month is the opportunity to change our lives around, to come closer to God, leave bad habits and make new good ones, to improve ourselves in all aspects of our lives. Ramadan is like a training camp for the rest of the year. The Prophet (saw.) used to do more in Ramadan than in the other months of the year.

Aisha (ra.) narrated:

“The Messenger of Allah (saw.) used to strive more in worship during Ramadan than he strove in any other time of the year…” [Muslim]

The reward of worship in this month of the Quran and of fasting is multifold, as Az-Zuhri said concerning Tasbih in Ramadan: “A tasbih in Ramadan is better than a thousand Tasbihah in other than it” [At-Tirmidhi]

There are ahadith saying that if one fasts during Ramadan and in another one prays during the night (in Qiyam) out of sincerity hoping for reward from Allah, will have their sins forgiven. Ramadan is a wonderful time, but also one of hardship and strive, we are giving up food and drink and are to try to be as productive as we are outside of Ramadan if not more so, as well as the long Taraweeh prayer and especially now when the days are long and the nights so short, it can be difficult to keep a good countenance throughout the month.

Similarly travelling is full of hardships,

“When the Prophet (saw.) travelled, he would seek refuge with Allah from the hardships of travel, and the sorrows of return, from loss after plenty, from the supplication of the one who has been wronged, and from seeing some calamity befall.” [Sahih Bukhari]

In another hadith travel is described as Jihad.

“Travel for my people is Jihad in the Cause of Allah, glory be to Him.” [Abu Dawud]

No wonder Umar (ra.) said that the true essence of a person would shine through when you are travelling with them. It puts you through stress situations, sometimes you lose food and sleep and especially during the time of the Prophet (saw.), he said in a report narrated by Abu Huraira (ra.):

“Travelling is a kind of torture, as it prevents one from sleeping and eating! So when one has finished his job, he should return quickly to his family.”
[Sahih Al-Bukhari]

 What helps overcoming these hardships is being clear of the goals and intentions of your travelling and your fasting. In first line we should remember that we do everything for the sake of Allah. Even when travelling for leisure, you could make your intention to relax and rejuvenate yourself, so you can toil harder once done with your vacation. Fasting and the long Qiyam are for the sake of Allah and that is something we should constantly remind ourselves of. We’re not doing it because it is expected of us by our family or community but because we want to please Allah and gain nearness to Him with it.
It helps to remember your goals and intentions when things get particularly hard. It also helps to keep yourself focused. If you are travelling for work solely, and you need to do this or that but get distracted by the sights, refocusing on your goals and making plans of how exactly you can achieve your goal help in keeping you productive. If your goal is to read the whole Quran in Ramadan, constantly reminding yourself of it and preparing yourself and planning ahead of time helps in making that Goal a reality.
 Wa salam!


PS: We’re over ten days into Ramadan now, Ramadan Mubarak! I have had the idea for this post for a while now, but essentially procrastinated too much. I wanted to upload this now, even though we are so far into the month already, because if I didn’t, I don’t know when I would be posting next, as I would continue to just procrastinate. So with the fear of this post not making any sense at all, I’ll send it off into the world anyway.

PPS: In this post I wanted to compare Ramadan with travelling, there are ahadith mentioning both and I often feel the same emotions when they come about, of course there is no real comparison to Ramadan but there are some similarities. I’m praying that I’ll be able to travel a bit during next Ramadan and get to experience it in different settings inshaAllah.

May Allah make this Ramadan a productive one for all of us, and accept all of our worship! Amin.





#Je suis une homme aussi


A month and a bit after the Paris attacks, weeks after the murder of the French-Moroccan Mohamed El-Makouli who was stabbed 17 times, in the presence of his wife and child, whose attacker shouted out “I am your Islam, I am your god”.  The murder of Khaled Idris Bahreys, an Eritrean asylum seeker in Germany, the 50+ attacks on Muslims, mosques and asylum seeker homes, the 40+ arrests in a supposed war on terrorism, it is difficult to make sense of it all. To find your place in the coverage this past month after #IamCharlie.
Because if you are not #IamCharlie, then you are #CharlieCoulibaly and are “one of them terrorists”, to be locked away and robbed of your freedom of speech. This binary of Bush’s “either you are with us or you are with the terrorists”, is toxic it leaves no space for the free speech, that everyone seems to be standing up for.

In his controversial music video “Don’t Laïk”,  the French-Algerian Rapper Médine slams the French form of secularism “Laïcité”, as a perversion of it. One that disadvantages the religious in society and especially those of Muslim faith these past few years. Post Revolution France re-built on the values of egalité, liberté and fraternité has in the face of globalization turned universalism and secularism, to an us and them. Laïcité was about reducing the power that the church had in France, what power do Muslims have in France to continually disadvantage them? Today either one assimilates totally and in the process loses ones identity and culture or one is not part of France. The Other isn’t tolerated and when one reads the coverage and papers over the last few years, Laïcité has almost become a religion to be revered and secularist fundamentalists have taken over. John Hanford, a US ambassador for international religious freedom, differentiates between the American and French systems of secularism and said: “In France, wearing a hijab is considered anti-French. In America it would be considered anti-American to force someone to take it off.” (interesting article)

Médine in my opinion, added to the discussion on laïcité becoming a form of persecution. Not only in releasing his video, but having discussions on the topic beforehand. This too is freedom of speech. France has been having this debate over laïcité and Islam for over a decade, maybe the other side isn’t being listened too.

It is difficult to raise concerns over what seems to be a majority opinion, the public opinion, and that is why reporters such as the reporteurs citoyen are so important.

Yourope episode on in German [Yourope in French]

At the same time as I oppose the calls for Muslims to distance themselves from violence every time someone supposedly does it in the name of Allah, I do as a human being and as a Muslim reject all kinds of injustices no matter who the perpetrators are. This is in line with what Allah (swt.) asks of us in the Qur’an.

“O you who believe! Be maintainers of justice, bearers of witness of Allah’s sake, though it may be against your own selves or your parents or near relatives; if he be rich or poor, Allah is nearer to them both in compassion; therefore do not follow (your) low desires, lest you deviate; and if you swerve or turn aside, then surely Allah is aware of what you do.” [4:135]

Senseless violence and terrorism has no place in Islam. It is the angels that asked Allah (swt.) about creating a creation that will shed blood on earth. He however knows that which we do not.

 And [mention, O Muhammad], when your Lord said to the angels, “Indeed, I will make upon the earth a successive authority.” They said, “Will You place upon it one who causes corruption therein and sheds blood, while we declare Your praise and sanctify You?” Allah said, “Indeed, I know that which you do not know.” [Surah Al-Baqarah : verse 30]

The Qur’an tells us that if one kills an innocent person, it is as if one had killed all of humanity. We condemn the killings of the innocent, whether that happens here in Europe, in the Muslim World or anywhere else. We condemn all acts of injustice as the Allah (swt.) orders us in the Qur’an, even if we had to testify against ourselves.
I assure you that I am human, that I believe in peace as much as the next guy, if not even more so. Violence does not care about religions or ideologies and Weltanschauungen, it happens everywhere, in all ages and for all reasons justified or not. No one has the monopoly on it.
I too have feelings that can be hurt, I too bleed the same way as you do. I too have a right to feel offended, when people dear to me are being insulted. When the person dearer to me than my own parents is caricatured, whether by those caricaturing him with pen and paper or those claiming to act in his name. It does not hurt my “religious feelings”, it hurts my “human” feelings and if that is the point of those producing or sharing those caricatures then well done.
Je ne suis pas Charlie, mais je ne suis pas Coulibally soit.
Je suis Abdur-Rahman,
bon nuit wa salam.
written before #ChapelHillshooting
May God grant them the highest level of paradise. Amin.

*2015 Resolution*

Salam Alaykum,
2015 is here, yay! I realise I’m twelve days late, but I do have what I hope is a valid excuse.

Over the holidays I’ve been to Nigeria for the first time in ten years. The weeks of hassle, travelling to London and back multiple times to renew my German Passport and apply for a Nigerian Passport paid off, it was absolutely amazing. All praise is due to God! That is despite the fact that due to security reasons we couldn’t just leave the complex whether we were at my dad’s or at my grandmother’s. A driver would drive us wherever we wanted to while that was cool, the downside was that you’d spend hours in the Lagos traffic. Due to the same reasons I’m short on photos as well, I left my camera at home just to be safe.

For some reason the heat surprised me, I expected it, I mean I was in Egypt a year and half ago. Coming back to the UK last Friday we almost froze to death, okay okay I almost froze to death my family were cyborgs. I however just couldn’t stop shivering.
Well, that Monday I had my first exam and yeah that was fun. Having revised next to nothing in Nigeria, I was surprised how well I (felt I) actually did in 3 of the 4 exams I’ve already sat. I’ve got one exam to go and then the new semester starts on the 19th.

There is a lot I want to do and change this year, some impacting the Blog and some my self, God willing. Over the last year I’ve posted a lot on virtues in the “Be more…” series. These were a reminder for myself, and whoever else benefited of them, to instil these virtues such as gratitude, humbleness or patience in our lives.

My biggest Goal this year is to work on and instil in myself one of the virtues Benjamin Franklin set himself to become a “self-made man”. He used to carry a book with 13 charts for 13 virtues and next to each day mark down whenever he went against one of these. He basically does, as Shaykh Suhaib Webb remarks, Muhasabah daily.

Over the last few years I have been becoming lazier and lazier. I’ve delayed so many things, not even talking about how much coursework I’ve delayed doing over the year. I’ve put off things friends have requested of me, or getting back into contact with others, posting on here, with no excuse other than my chronic procrastination.
I’ve been involved in so many great things over the years that I’m absolutely grateful to have been part of. The one thing that overshadowed these experiences in some cases was not being able to do good work fast.

Lose no time
Be always employ’d in something useful
Cut off all unnecessary actions

Industriousness is therefore my biggest goal and resolution for this year of 2015.

Dictionary Definition :

obsolete skillful, ingenious

constantly, regularly, or habitually active or occupieddiligent industrious worker

This incorporates a lot of things that I will have to take myself to task for. It is a deeply Islamic concept to not be idle and to not waste your time on earth.

Ibn ‘Abbas narrated that the Messenger of Allah (s.a.w) said:

“Two favours that many of the people squander are health and free time.” [Al-Tirmidhi | Sahih]
In the Qur’an, Allah (swt.) tells us about a man unto whom death comes he says:
“”My Lord, send me back That I might do righteousness in that which I left behind.” No! It is only a word he is saying; and behind them is a barrier until the Day they are resurrected.”  [Surat Al-Mu’minūn 99-100]

So using my time as best as I can, to plan ahead of time and make time for certain things in life that just have to be done, is my resolution so to say for this year. I pray that this year will be a good one for all of us, for humanity, for banu Adam.




As Salam Alaykum,

“Indeed, in the creation of the heavens and the earth and the alternation of the night and the day are signs for those of understanding.” [3:109]

Looking at the Universe and reflecting on its vastness, one can’t avoid feeling a certain amount of awe and respect for it. The Qur’an is a book of Ayat, which can be translated as signs. Over and over again Allah (swt.) also reminds us that there are signs in the world around us, for those of understanding. The Qur’an therefore points at the awe inspiring phenomena in nature and asks us to reflect on the Creator, His existence, His Might etc. Science and Religion within Islamic discourse does not exclude each other but go hand in hand. Okay, so taking into account the title of this post, where am I going with this?

In our “post-modern” society this awe and respect has stopped at a deep appreciation, deference even, for nature and for science, at the expense of religion. There is a deep sense of respect for science as if it has become a new religion, one that especially the New-Atheists ascribe to. On the other side as society steadily splits apart, with more and more people moving towards the right. A speck of respect and tolerance for the other, the unknown, the foreigner, the religion of the foreigner becomes increasingly non-existant.

Religions, Ideas, Ideologies do not need to be respected or so is the current prevailing view. Freedom of speech has been used as a blanket to disrespect and insult communities, the current high levels of Islamophobia have even costed Sikh communities. What about us though? Us Muslims. We who believe that the Prophet (saw.) came as a mercy to mankind. Do we show respect and tolerance as the Prophet (saw.) did to people who have different customs, the Bedouin for example who are very rough and straight forward in their behaviour. Or to those of different faith as the Prophet (saw.) did, standing up in respect to the progression of a funeral for a Jewish woman. Reminding us that despite our differences she is just another human being like we are too. Do we respect those who we call kuffar as if it were an insult? Never mind non-Muslims, how about our fellow brothers and sisters in Islam? Do we respect and love each other for the sake of Allah, despite our differences of opinion, despite our different cultures and ethnic backgrounds. Because diversity is a signs from Allah (swt):

“And of His signs is the creation of the heavens and the earth and the diversity of your languages and your colors. Indeed in that are signs for those of knowledge.” [30:21]

The problem is that we only have a textbook understanding of different faiths, cultures and world views at most. How do we build respect for each other, if we do nothing to get to know each other and be open for difference? As Allah (swt.) tells us in the Qur’an:

“O mankind, indeed We have created you from male and female and made you peoples and tribes that you may know one another. Indeed, the most noble (honoured) of you in the sight of Allah is the most righteous of you. Indeed, Allah is Knowing and Acquainted.” [49:13]

Allah (swt.) could have created us all the same, how boring would our world be then? No, we are supposed to learn from our diversity, from each other. We all have been honoured, as Allah tells us in the above ayah, all human beings, indeed all beings are to be treated with respect. In creating relationships with people that are very different from you, you establish a basis for understanding and getting to know the Other.

I have been fortunate to have been able to make friends with all kinds of different people, from different (or no) faiths, cultures, ethnic backgrounds and interests. But just making friends is in some cases not enough, especially in those instances where one separates the ideology of a person with the person. It is bizarre to me how a person who has friends who are practising Muslims, can be islamophobic at the same time but it still happens. Why? Most likely because there is no actual communication happening on issues that are relevant. What is there to understand if there is no communication?

If there is no communication beyond YouTube Comments and Tweets, how are we to grow to respect each other, and in effect stitching the gaping wound in society? So that it may start to heal.

Wa Salam,

Being patient with what Allah has decreed

As-Salamu Alaykum,

Life is difficult, we all have something we struggle with in life. Whether that is a stubbed toe, bad exam results or a death in the family.

In his book “Don’t Be Sad”, Sheikh ‘Aidh ibn Abdullah al-Qarni writes: “Whatever has befallen you was not meant to escape you, and whatever has escaped you was not meant to befall you: If this belief were to be firmly ingrained in your heart, then all hardship and difficulty would become ease and comfort. The Prophet (saw.) said: “Whoever Allah wishes good for, He inflicts him (with hardship).”

Allah (swt.) tells us in the Qur’an:

“No disaster strikes except by permission of Allah. And whoever believes in Allah – He will guide his heart. And Allah is Knowing of all things.”

[Surah At-taghabun : 11 ]

Two of the names of Allah (swt.) are Al-Muhyi and Al-Mu’mit, the Giver of life and the Bringer of death. It is Him that blessed us with the birth of a new child in our midst, but it is also His Will for a beloved to leave us. As well as everything, that is in between those two certainties.

“Every soul must taste death”, it says in the Qur’an. Not just experience death for ourselves, but as Shaykh Shafi Chowdhury said in a lecture, someone you love will die and you will have to bury them. He reminded us that Allah (swt.) is behind every single interaction, every single situation that befalls us, that this is our test. How do we act when something good or bad happens to us?

As the Prophet (saw.) said:

“How wonderful is the affair of the believer, for his affairs are all good, and this applies to no one but the believer. If something good happens to him, he is thankful for it and that is good for him. If something bad happens to him, he bears it with patience and that is good for him.” [Narrated by Muslim, 2999] 

Another narration from the Prophet (saw.) says:

The greatest reward comes with the greatest trial. When Allah loves a people He tests them. Whoever accepts that wins His pleasure but whoever is discontent with that earns His wrath.”

[ Narrated by al-Tirmidhi (2396)]

With everything that may happen whether good or bad we are asked to bear it with patience. Something good that may occur to us might not be that good after all, and something bad may in fact be good for us. Does a baby know that a vaccination will protect him or her in the long run? It will still cry no matter how much you try to explain it, it hurts. In the same way Allah (swt.) loves us more than a mother loves her baby,  He wants only good for us.

“On the Day of Resurrection people will wish that their skins had been cut with scissors in this world, when they see the reward of those who were struck with calamity.” [marfoo’ narration in Al-Tirmidhi]

So He may cause us to have distress in this world, so that He may shower us with the pleasures of the next. He may cause us pain in this world and with that erase our sins and grant us entrance to Paradise and non-imaginable rewards. In times of hardship we say, Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi rajioon. (Verily to Allah we belong and unto Him is our return) Reminding ourselves that this world is not much more than a stay under the shade of a tree.

“And We will surely test you with something of fear and hunger and a loss of wealth and lives and fruits, but give good tidings to the patient.

Who, when disaster strikes them, say, “Indeed we belong to Allah , and indeed to Him we will return.

Those are the ones upon whom are blessings from their Lord and mercy. And it is those who are the [rightly] guided.”

[Surah Al-Baqarah : 155-7]

Wa Salam,

I am tired

Salam Alaykum,

it has certainly been a while since I last posted something on here. My life has been as a scholar just described it, like that of an animal. Taking things on as they appear, no structure nor planning. Just living from one day to the next, trying desperately to survive.

I am tired. Not just physically but mentally as well, I yearn for a longer holiday, to start to put my life together more permanently than the little breaks I get on Weekends. In which I do not do much more than wallow in the guilt of not doing anything. 2 Weeks ago after travelling to London I had a little break-down. I didn’t go to University that week, didn’t move much at all really. I think it started before that, maybe even round about the time my Internet connection started giving me troubles. Everything became a little too much, I said yes to a few things too often and crashed.

The amount of University work I had not done, the voluntary things I got involved in, everything just stopped. I’m good at procrastination, maybe I should have done my Bachelor’s in the Art of Procrastination. After that first crash I started putting things off again, missing deadlines because I had started to work the day or two before and it was more complicated than I thought. Everything is screaming at me to do something, to do some work, to catch-up, but I don’t know where to start. More often than not I feel totally listless. I delay getting started, just as I delayed my writing my first post in a while on here.

After that second crash, I started to record what I do with my time. Both manually using a spreadsheet and with certain apps such as Toggl and RescueTime. 2 Weeks ago I spent almost 26hrs reading Fanfiction, instead of researching for my reports and 2 hours on YouTube, which is quite low for me. Overall I spent 41% of my time on the computer on entertainment and only about 5% on actual learning. I have started organising myself a little better last week using spreadsheets to split my time up more wisely. The thing is holding myself to it, is hard. What I haven’t added yet, and that is something I have wanted to do for ages, is orient it towards Imam Ghazali’s Al-Bidayyah. (The Beginning of Guidance) I really hope my report this last week is loads better.

Generally, the last week has been better than the last few weeks all together, except for my getting ill on Wednesday. I know there will be further dips in my productivity, increases  in stress levels and anxiety, headaches, but I think I’m slowly getting to a point where I’ll be able to deal with it, God willing. I am tired of my listlessness and procrastination.

And so I hope this will be the first of many posts to come. Middle of December I’m hoping and praying to have caught up with all the topics I wanted to go over this year as I’m going to be travelling to Nigeria in the winter holidays

Wa Salam,


Being Patient with People

Salam Alaykum,

today’s post is about having forbearance (Hilm). Forbearance, according to Merriam-Webster is “the quality of someone who is patient and able to deal with a difficult person or situation without becoming angry.” It is difficult to have patience generally, but it is more agonizing quite often when dealing with people who can’t get a move on, are rude, obnoxious and/or infuriating to swallow that anger and frustration that one feels and be patient. It is another step up to that challenge, to not just ignore such people but deal with them in a way that does not end in hating and killing each other.

It is however important to show patience in face of a difficult person or situation that raise ire, but also in situations where you are disappointed. It is of essence to deal with such a situation masterfully to not put yourself or another down. For you to not get depressed and sunk into a hole and for you to not unintentionally emotionally scar the other. This goes for every single situation that you find yourself in, you have to find ways to deal with people.

In the Muslim Community we have a problem with giving Advice. (Nasiha) It is important to give it, I would go as far as saying it is an obligation. As Allah (swt.) said in Surah Al-Asr:

“By time, Indeed mankind is in loss, Except for those who believe and do good deeds and urge one another to truth and urge one another to patience.“

[Surah Al-‘Asr]

However giving advise is constrained to time and etiquette (Adab). When giving Nasiha we have to find a time that is suitable to the one we are wanting to give advice to. We have to do it on their schedule not on ours, otherwise they won’t listen. Advice is also given with proper etiquette, it isn’t given in anger or self-righteousness. It is given because we care and not to satisfy our ego. We have an example in Luqman who gave advice to his son, pre-emptively addressing him with words of love.

We have to show patience when urging one another to the truth. Again realising that everyone is on a journey one may seem to be further ahead but be careful not to let another crash and burn with your harshness.  We should be helping each other along and that can only be done when we care, with Adab and with patience. On the other hand we have to be patient with those that deal in being rude and harsh.

As the Prophet (saw.) said in a hadith related by Ibn Umar (ra.):

“The believer who mixes with people and bears their annoyance with patience will have a greater reward than the believer who does not mix with people and does not put up with their annoyance.”

[Sahih | Sunan Ibn Majah]

This doesn’t mean that one should get steam-rolled by people, if there is abuse in a relationship for example the authorities need to be called. That in itself is patience, patience does not mean to suffer in silence as the origin of the word from latin infers. Abuse is abuse, is abuse. At the very least an independent arbiter should be involved.

I’m iterating, Patience is not to suffer in silence, firstly realise that God is always with you and He is the most excellent Partner to have. Secondly, “there is strength in numbers”. We are an Ummah (a community) you are not alone. If it is the case that your local community left you alone then get authorities involved. Go to the “Kafir” and get help, no matter what your family says.

Finally, learn to forgive people, to let things slide it will help you and the people around you. Don’t be serious all the time, there is a place and time to be so. We realise the End is coming, but if the Prophet (saw.) still laughed and smiled, raced and joked, so can and should you. Islam came to make things easier, not for us to breathe down everyone’s neck to make sure they do everything, as we think they should. Yes Islam came with clear rules and guidelines but showing forbearance and Patience in advising can  go a long way in helping to guide someone.

In the end Allah (swt.) is the One who guides and forgives may He forgive us abundantly on account of every discomfort, every illness, anxiety and grief, worry, prick of a thorn and any other pain that we may have experienced. May He make us people of patience. Amin

“Never a believer is stricken with a discomfort, an illness, an anxiety, a grief or mental worry or even the pricking of a thorn but Allah will expiate his sins on account of his patience”. [Al-Bukhari and Muslim].

Wa Salam,

Being patient with ourselves

Salam Alaykum,

It is in our nature to want, do and act in haste, to be impatient as Allah (swt.) said in the Qur’an:

“Man is ever hasty” [Surah Al-Israa’ : 11]

Our creator created us like this, with this haste and still He (swt.) expects us to fight it. To act with intelligence and not act on emotion alone. Didn’t the Prophet (saw.) say:

“The strong man is not the good wrestler; but the strong man is he who controls himself when he is angry.” [Agreed upon.]

To be patient in a moment of extreme emotion, be it anger or sadness is often to act against our first instinct to lash out. We are asked to struggle, to make Jihad in such situations, to be the strong man or woman.

Wasn’t there a time where we sought to be grown up as fast as possible? Then pine away at those trouble-free days as we reached our adult days. Do we not seek time to pass faster when there is nothing to do, but miss times of lazing about when we are busy. We always want time to go by as fast as possible, not realising that with every second we come closer to death. We forget to live in the moment, thanking God for the good times and the bad times. The times of joy and happiness and those of pain and sadness which we want to have passed quickly, but everything takes time.

“Rome ne fut pas faite toute en un jour”

Rome wasn’t built in a day as the adage says, encouraging us, that there is a need of time for great things to be created. Everyone is on a journey and at different stages of it, it takes time for us to reach the majour stations in our life as Allah (swt.) wills it and how much effort we put into reaching them. If a majour problem of yours is your anger, then work on it, it may take a long time to control it but you’ll get there. We will get there, inshaAllah (if God wills). On our journey to reach our goals, we need to be persistent. There may be many set backs on the way, it is going to be hard but persist in it and Allah will give. As Allah (swt.) tells us in many instances:

“And seek help through patience and prayer, and indeed, it is difficult except for the humbly submissive [to Allah ]” [Surah Baqarah : 153]

 But they never lost assurance due to what afflicted them in the cause of Allah , nor did they weaken or submit. And Allah loves the steadfast.

[Surah Ali Imran : 146]

It is always difficult to be patient especially with ourselves, we can be very hard on ourselves, with our regrets and guilt. To a point regret and feeling guilt is okay and a good thing, it can drive us making that train reach its station faster. Past a certain point however it harms us, we either fall to our regrets, wallowing in them or we begin to feel indifferent which is the other extreme. The goal is to harness this feeling to become better, to come closer to God.

In a Hadith Qudsi related by Abu Huraira (ra.) the Messenger of Allah (saw.) said:

The Prophet (ﷺ) said, “Allah, the Exalted, and Glorious said: ‘A slave committed a sin and he said: O Allah, forgive my sin,’ and Allah said: ‘My slave committed a sin and then he realized that he has a Rubb Who forgives the sins and punishes for the sin.’ He then again committed a sin and said: ‘My Rubb, forgive my sin,’ and Allah (SWT) said: ‘My slave committed a sin and then realized that he has a Rubb Who forgives his sin and punishes for the sin.’ He again committed a sin and said: ‘My Rubb, forgive my sin,’ and Allah (SWT) said: ‘My slave has committed a sin and then realized that he has a Rubb Who forgives the sin or takes (him) to account for sin. I have granted forgiveness to my slave. Let him do whatever he likes”.
[Al-Bukhari and Muslim]

This Hadith shows, the Mercy of Allah (swt.) that He forgives and forgives if we repent with sincerity. This of course does not give us the license to sin, but if we fall into sin and then repent from it sincerely, resolving to not do it again, and we happen to fall into it again then we are to repent from it again and to not give up repenting for our weakness.

It was said to al-Hasan al Basri (rah.):

“Shouldn’t one of us feel too shy to ask his Lord to forgive his sin, then do it again, then ask for forgiveness, then do it again? He said: The Shaytaan wishes that you would have this attitude, so do not tire of asking for forgiveness.”

We have to have the patience that when we do something we regret repeatedly, to ask for forgiveness and to not get tired of repenting thinking that, “I am just going to do it again anyway”. 

We ask Allah (swt.), as the army of Saul (as.) and David (as.) asked:

Our Lord, pour upon us patience…

[Surah Al-Baqarah : 250]

Oh Allah help us make us worthy of having you with us, as you have promised the people who are patient.

Indeed, Allah is with the patient.

Make us people of patience and forbearance, of good character and good actions. Amin.

Wa Salam,